You hear it all the time these days. “I just need to nap for literally like a week and then I’ll take care of x, y, and z.” Or perhaps you might hear the more extreme, “Life isn’t fair, so just give up.” More generally, we hear plenty of chatter about who deserves what and how x, y, and z need to be redistributed fairly as we endlessly attempt to balance the scales as a society. 

You know the kind of people we are talking about. They are negative and vocal. 

These people probably could nap for literally like a week. And they could probably do with a day off at home after they vacation to reset (pro tip). And, life isn’t always fair. In fact, you could argue a great many things about the world aren’t rooted in fairness whatsoever, including the very existence of life and consciousness in the first place! 

The point is that, while these complaints and rationalizations might have some element of truth to them, they don’t do anything to help us. In fact, you could easily argue that they do tangible harm. The more you start to pay attention to the hopelessness and unfairness that undergirds so much of what has been accepted as normal in our society, the more you realize how damaging a mindset of helplessness and jealousy can be for natural human development. 

The thing is, all of us have the tendency to blame our circumstances for negative consequences, while we will be sure to give ourselves credit for anything good that happens to us. Conversely, we do the opposite with others; if others have success, there’s a psychological inclination to attribute it to environmental factors, whereas we’ll blame them if anything negative happens to befall them. 

That tells us that we, ourselves, aren’t fair with the way we think about ourselves or others. So what should we do? It’s simple! Stop being so preoccupied with fairness and and jealousy. Control what we can control, which, when you boil it down, is really only how we can respond to situations. As the ancient Stoics like Marcus Aurelius believed, the path to a fulfilled life lies there. As the Daily Stoic conveys, “Stoicism doesn’t concern itself with complicated theories about the world, but with helping us overcome destructive emotions and act on what can be acted upon. It’s built for action, not endless debate.

On the flip side, if you want to be endlessly dissatisfied with life, become preoccupied with who has more than you and let it consume you.

What does this have to do with payday loans or car title loans in Texas? Excellent question. We’ll explain more in part two, but for now, we want you to know that we aren’t just here to rant at you about having a victim-mindset. Because you very well might not have one. And even if you do, we can still help you out at Your Loan Depot with emergency loan services for fast cash in Texas. If your bank and/or credit union has denied you because you are down on your luck with bad credit at the moment, we can help with a simple, efficient, and affordable payday loan process. Whether you need the fast cash for an unexpected medical expense, a car repair, to make rent, or for an investment opportunity you can’t turn down, that’s your business, not ours! We are here to provide lending services in Texas (and to dispense some life advice from time to time as well). 

Visit us at a Your Loan Depot location, give us a call, or just wait for part-two for a few more tips on how to get your ___ together to become an adult!